We've all heard the stereotype of how rude French people are...this time I got a front row seat.
As I stated in my previous post, my friend is leaving. Well you know what, let me just put it alllll out there. No holds barred.
There are three of us who are friends from college. Me, Liz and Di. We all celebrate our birthdays within a month of each other. Since college we've all managed to stay in touch. This trio includes the friend who is going back "home", Di. We all are people who love to celebrate our birthday. It's a HUGE deal to us all. Last year, I'm not even sure how it came about, but two of us (Liz and me) decided to take the third out and treat her for her birthday. We had a fun evening. We went to a show @ Hard Rock and had dinner. I had to work that night so we all called it a night @ 11p.
Liz and me, since our birthdays are within a week of each other decided to celebrate together and go out to dinner. We hadn't heard from Di so we went ahead and made plans to have dinner with our husbands, and had a fabulous time!! TWO WEEKS LATER, she called and left messages that she forgot it was our birthday and was out of town but we can link up and have sushi. It rubbed me the wrong way, because while I thought her birthday was important, mine to her was like whatever... but I decided not to be petty and bring it up... just learn from it and move on... The other two however, did not speak since the message was left. Months went by, but I had been somewhat in touch with Di. The other day, Di joined facebook. Liz's hubby saw her on facebook and then they started talking about her leaving the country. Liz's hubby, being a dear, decided that since we all had been friends for a long time, he would try to plan a small dinner to reunite the trio. I couldn't make it to dinner, but it went well and so they called to pick me up after dinner. We went out for a drink and caught up some. While we were talking, Liz and her hubby decide to have a drink up at their home since Di would be leaving soon.
They invited a few friends and tried not to go too overboard. Di RSVPed and stated that she would be there and made reference to the day (this is important). All set. So we all make plans... I was in charge of dessert. The hosts did dinner. On the way up to the get together I picked up my cousin, who was also invited. We get there... no Di... which is to be expected because she's notorious for being late. No problem... we start drinking... but we're all waiting on her so we can start dinner. We call, text... no answer... no response. So we sit and think up various scenarios... could she have forgotten the day? No, because she referred to it in her RSVP (I told you it was important) ... could she be hurt? We call again.. no answer, them we figure if she was hurt then more than likely a family member would call to say something. Is she just very late? Maybe! So after 4 hours of waiting we decide to carry on with dessert and the drinking... we had a good time as we usually do when we all get together. Everyone leaves and take up the gifts they all brought for her.
When I get home, I get even more concerned and even checked the arrest records online, just in case... hey it's been known to have happened before... not with this friend, but ahmm.. others. No arrest. Phew! I go to bed.
When I woke up I was even more livid than the night before. Did she really just blow us off and her going away party? I was still thinking that there was some logical explanation for her not being there, but puzzled as to why she had yet to have returned my phone call, or text.
Sunday, I get up in the afternoon and check my email...I see her online. No her screen name is not that she had an accident, someone died, got sick, or anything of that nature. It then sinks in. The utmost disrespect was delivered to us on a silver platter. She just didn't show up, or call or anything. Didn't answer her phone, didn't think to call back. Nothing.
THREE DAYS later I call, again curious as to what happened... no answer. When I got home there was a message on email from her that the "movers" were coming and so she couldn't make it and so she sent email to Liz saying it was a bad day. This is when I think to myself, if someone is having a party in your honor and after you RSVP you realize that you can't make it, this is when you pick up the phone and call and say something, not rely on email. When your party is supposed to be going on and people are ringing off your phone maybe, just maybe, you'll get the hint that the email that you may or may not have sent off wasn't received... so maybe I should answer the phone. So basically we were all blown off.
What upset me the most, is that we have been friends for years and we have been through a lot, but this is the footing that she decides to leave on.
She has yet to return my phone call.
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